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Writing what I’ve learned along the way.

Purposefully Faithful Friendship in Seasons of Sorrow

Purposefully Faithful Friendship in Seasons of Sorrow

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Hey Friends,

I have two things to share with you today:

1. I created a new social media feed called "Mourning Companion."

I have long believed that lament is a lost art in our Western American culture - ever since I lost my baby to a chromosome abnormality and had to navigate the chaotic waters of grief. Which is why I wanted to create a community where people experiencing life's sorrows, and those trying to support them, can come to express their pain and learn more about the gift of lament.

Though I will share pieces of my story, and though the details involve stillbirth, Mourning Companion's social media feeds will not be exclusively for those who have experienced that kind of pain. They are for everyone who has experienced any of life's sorrows, whatever those individual sorrows might be. As you will see through the content that I share, I operate under the belief that though words cannot heal or take away our pain, they can remind us we are not alone.

Click through the buttons below to follow along on Facebook and Instagram. You may also message me with content, quotes, and comfort that you would like to see shared on these feeds. Let's make this a place where we can air our wounds and their effects on our lives to our loving Father.

2. I wrote an article called "Purposefully Faithful Friendship in Times of Sorrow."

I recently had the pleasure of writing an article for Kelly Balarie's website Purposeful Faith. To tie in with the launch of Mourning Companion, I wrote the article about how to support people during their tough times using Scripture as our guide. 

Click through this link to read the article, and be sure to share it and pass it on to your friends on social media and in real life!

HERE IS A SHORT EXCERPT:

“What can I do to help?” my friend asked. “How can I be there for you?”

I was going through another foggy season of depression, struggling to get out of bed in the morning, unable to focus on tasks I normally enjoyed, and just not feeling like myself. Even though I wasn’t surprised my friend of over fourteen years posed the question, that didn’t make me any less grateful she was willing to ask. 

It’s difficult to know how to support friends in their seasons of sorrow, especially if they’re going through disappointments, betrayal, and loss we haven’t experienced before. Thankfully, the Bible offers general principles for being a purposefully faithful friend in seasons of sorrow:

Be quick to listen and slow to speak {James 1:19}.

Proverbs 25:20 says, “Whoever sings songs to a heavy heart is like one who takes off a garment on a cold day, and like vinegar on soda.” There are times when using words to address your friend’s pain is not only useless but causes more harm. When words are necessary, focus on acknowledging your friend’s pain or asking questions to better understand what they are going through. We live in a culture that values quick fixes, but some types of heartache are long-suffering or can’t be fixed, especially with words. Have faith enough that God will bring healing, understanding, peace or comfort in His perfect timing...

Click here to continue reading on Purposeful Faith's website.

As always, thank you for being faithful readers and for supporting me as I continue to write!

 

Grace and Peace,

Kendra

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