What I Actually Remember About Our Wedding Day

{Photo by TAK Photography.} Maybe because it's wedding season. Maybe because we are celebrating a very special sister's wedding this weekend. Maybe because I think that sometimes marriage is given a bad rap, and we need to be reminded about how awesome it can be. Either way, I hope all brides and grooms {both future and of yesteryear} take notice and remember "that look" you gave each other on your wedding day. Both now, and for many blessed years to come.

{Photo by TAK Photography.} Maybe because it's wedding season. Maybe because we are celebrating a very special sister's wedding this weekend. Maybe because I think that sometimes marriage is given a bad rap, and we need to be reminded about how awesome it can be. Either way, I hope all brides and grooms {both future and of yesteryear} take notice and remember "that look" you gave each other on your wedding day. Both now, and for many blessed years to come.

I don’t remember much.

I don’t remember the kinds of flowers in the bouquets {white?}, the food we ate at the reception {champagne?}, or many of the words our pastor said in his message {oops?}.

Our wedding album and video are the only things that remember those kinds of details, or any of the other details we put thousands of hours into planning. Our wedding day, while one of the happiest days of my life, was and is a total blur. 

But there is one thing I will always remember about our wedding day.

One thing that I hope I will always remember about our wedding day. And that is, that look

{Brides and Grooms of yesteryear, you know what I’m talking about, right?}

That look when you saw each other for the first time, wearing your gorgeous white gown and well-fitted suit.

That look when you walked down the aisle and you saw each other from afar, and you wished you could just run and get to the end already, just to be close to each other, just to stand next to each other.

That look when you took each other’s hands and promised to love each other, as long as you both shall live.

That look that turned into a nervous, fuzzy feeling when the pastor finally said, “You may kiss the bride.”

That look when you danced together for the first time as husband and wife, and you knew that this must have been one of the best days ever.

That look when you realized your relationship has come so far, and you wondered if it is even possible for you to love this person more than already you do in that moment.

That look of nervousness, excitement, anticipation, happiness.

That look that makes your heart burst with declaration: “I would do anything for you!”

That look that occurs a hundred other times in a hundred other special moments on your wedding day.

That look. It’s a beautiful thing. And it needs to be remembered.

Because when marriage sets in, when bliss turns into reality, it can take {a lot of} work to rekindle “that look.”

Because sometimes “that look” turns a little darker than that day you looked at each other and said, “I do.”

Sometimes “that look” comes across more like disagreement, miscommunication, anger, trials, loss, grief, disappointment, selfishness. {The list could go on and on. And the list could be personalized for every couple and their unique life together.}

But remember “that look” that you gave each other on your wedding day.

Remember "that look" when you stood before your closest family and friends and you chose each other, and promised to continually choose each other day after day after day. Remember those moments, those words, those memories in your relationship that embody “that look.”

Do what it takes to rekindle “that look” that you gave each other on your wedding day.

A special night out? A cozy night in? A little pillow talk? A hand-written note? Doing the dishes? Holding back your criticism? Letting your admiration and appreciate freely fly?

Choose “that look” that you gave each other on your wedding day.

Even on the days when marriage is hard. Even when you both struggle to embody selfless, unconditional love all the days of your lives. Even when you’re able to grit out, “I love you,” but you can’t quite stomach, “and I like you too.”

Embrace “that look” when you realize, even after all the hard stuff that marriage brings, that you do in fact love this person even more than you did in that one moment on your wedding day.

Remember “that look.”

Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. {Song of Songs 8:6-7a}

Grace and Peace,
Kendra